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Fairy World! Joined Apr 4, Wow- I'm glad you didn't let her in!! She sounded kind of strung out We had a scary thing happen when we were newlyweds- we woke up on New Year's Day to a girl sleeping on our couch!! Apparantley, she was attending a party one floor above ours, and some time in the middle of the night, left that apartment and wandered into ours we left the door unlocked accidentally. She took out her contacts, brushed her teeth, and took off her shoes and socks before curling up on the sofa.
She also put out our cat, who was never allowed outside- luckily, we found her, very irritated, outside the door when we realized she was gone. We woke up this poor girl, who was very embarrassed once she really woke up.
She was probably more freaked out than we were!! She apologized profusely, then hightailed it out of there. Afterwards, we laughed about it, but it could have been bad if she was a psycho or we were, lol. Joined May 11, MomofKatie said:. I'm glad your friend got her to leave. My son and his wife live near a big university and odd stuff seems to happen pretty often. One evening they had a few friends including another of my sons and his wife in for dinner when the front door banged open and a young man came running into the house with his eyes bulging.
He flew to the kitchen sink where he spat out a mouthful of something and proceeded to stick his mouth under the faucet! My sons grabbed him and in the process of throwing him out of the house discovered he was drunk and had picked up a plastic cup my son had put by the side of the house to dispose of later.
It was full of oil from the lawn mower! The idiot had picked it up and tried to drink it. I guess he got thirsty after drinking all day. Oh, he told my son he 'ought to warn a person' cause he could have died. Joined Jun 9, I'd never even answered the door. Everyone knows to call me ahead of time if it's dark because Im not answering. I had a problem with a guy neighbor this past summer harassing me late at night. I had asked him several times to please turn his music down as he liked it loud enough to vibrate my floors and windows and I lived above him.
If you do not recognize and trust the person on the other side of the door, and especially if you feel uncomfortable or suspicious about the circumstance — just in case, why not arm yourself? Arming yourself will enable protection should that person actually be a burglar or home invader.
Just saying…. The few thoughts listed above are just a sampling of many options for you when a stranger knocks on your door. I have a dog… he barely barks! Unless the mailman steps up on the porch… he has something against the USPS! I have a peephole that is useless at night and my Ring doorbell is iffy at best. It does allow me to view the porch but the 2 way comms is useless. I live in a very safe town.
But I do keep a loaded revolver in my desk drawer that is right next to my front door. And I do look out my peephole before I answer the door. If at night, there is a motion detector light on the porch. Be aware that at night if your room has lights turned on, the person can look back through that peep hole, and while they cannot see your image, they can see the light being blocked and know your location near the center of the door.
Sometimes low tech is the better choice. But they have to stand outside of a locked sun room to ring. We can see them from upstairs. I suspect that you have bought into what the media and retarded libtards have been selling which is a bushel of major league ignorance. They do get shot and cleaned at least annually or more. The closest one to me just sits there, unemotional and indifferent to everything and anything I do in its presence. Matter of fact ALL of them act exactly alike.
Quick update on the Ring Doorbell… evidently it was Operator Error! I guess it took me a while to figure out how to push the green button to talk! I thought it was my parents so I went up the stairs. Just as I did I heard an unfamiliar voice of a man and they tried to open the locked door. I remained quiet and texted my mom and she said look out the window. I did and found no one not even a car. Koolyn if you are home alone or even not alone , and you feel there is a criminal outside the door trying to get in , or such, please call the police emergency number.
After the police arrive you can text parents, but chances are, parents are a ways away, and even if not, Police can offer more assistance. Since every single person in your life is, was a stranger at some point you must be a very lonely person. I meet people on my terms, not when I am most vulnerable. Thankfully I live in a condo which consists mostly of retired persons.
Thus the general public has no access to our unit doors. I advise this sort of living for single older women and single women of any age, for safety. We do have many social clubs at the condo where neighbours interact. Good idea. They need to make an appointment or leave a valid business card that properly identifies their business, contact info and name. Very good that your condo has no access to outsiders. Crooks, aka dishonest people, are everywhere, Home burglaries are ramped, and so are home invasions.
Many homes are empty during this time while people are at work. Burglars know this and use it to their advantage. NRP I think the word is getting out. It is a tough decision to pull that trigger or swing that ax, but the alternative of being an injured victim or being dead are tougher slight understatement. There was a news article the other day when a person shot and killed a home invader.
He was saying this is the second time in 5 years that he shot at a home invader.
This time it was fatal. Also the story about a woman that shot and killed an escaped convict that broke into her home. MRP, Keep in mind that your stats are an average that includes large cities like Chicago with strict gun control and rampant gun crime. While theft is not unheard of in my large rural neighborhood, our stats are significantly lower than those in urban and suburban areas, and nearly every adult I know, goes armed nearly everywhere all of the time.
I peek out a window and if I do not know the person I do not answer the door. I am a female alone. At my front door I have a storm door that locks and then my interior door. In the past I have had someone knock on my door at like at night, scared the crap out of me. By the time I looked out no one was on the porch nor any vehicle out there so obviously they were on foot. I always have my sidearm at the ready but probably not the best coarse of action… if you do not know them or are not expecting a delivery guy, do not open the door is the best option.
Why waste your time telling a solicitor no thanks… Most of the time the poor guy walks away looking pretty sad. If you see more than one guy certainly do not open the door. Be careful of delivery people, even the pizza guy. Keep your firearm concealed.
In USA, everybody and their brother have smart phones. Joe c I discourage self-invites as well but have been surprised a few times when working in the garden or shop. An outside bell tied to property sensors may be my spring project. I discourage self-invites as well but have been surprised a few times when working in the garden or shop.
We have numerous motion sensors with remote alarms around the property and in some of the outbuildings. They consist of a sensor and a remote alarm. Both components are battery powered and the remote alarm is small enough to carry in your pocket. They have several model numbers so you can match units. We use one set of units for the driveway and perimeter with several remote alarms around the house. We use another model for intrusion detection in our outbuildings with those remote alarm units also in the house; but, indicating someone in with the machinery, instead of just the driveway.
Driveway alarms. They operate with varying methodologies, frequencies, etc.. Many of them are absolute garbage. You get what you pay for… Just saying. For example where I live there are numerous animal species that would be setting these things off at a alarming rate pun intended. Which will be a topic for another article one day though I believe I have a few on the site somewhere. Additionally, many of these will spec distances that are entirely ridiculously false, while others are actually pretty good but you pay more for it.
But I digress…. Ive always been disappointed with the common motion sensing hardware, i worked doing a bunch of industrial control work back in the 80s and we used a bunch of different industrial grade hard wired sensors, its like comparing apples and dog poop. They do not work for me. Three units, three different frequencies. Same alarm same length of signal alarm and light. Apparently a quick visual should be made within a three second alarm once motion sensor is triggered …….
NRP There are some religious sects around here that send out little old ladies to invite new blood to their meetings. Your presentation in your tighty whities may be just the male virility they are looking for. It is like those telemarketers, if you answer once they will keep calling and calling thereafter.
Speaking of religious door bangers. My wife was home alone a few months ago, a car pulls up our foot drive. A man gets out of the car, she decides not to answer the front door. After a while she thinks he is leaving, but no, he actually goes into our attached garage and starts to knock, rattle the door knob and to look through the door window. He only left after she threatened to turn 90 pounds of our pissed german shepard loose on him. He did leave a pamphlet. Before we have a bunch of replies.
Yes, leaving the garage door up was a major blunder.
Was he for real? We will probably never know. Does the pamphlet have a name, address, or phone number of the organization, or is it just a generic? Contact them if possible, and your local law enforcement. Could be they were using the religious angle as cover for more nefarious acts. Law enforcement would appreciate you making them aware of someone working the area using this tactic. Dennis The pamphlet was generic. We are taking this as a reminder to be more aware.
Perhaps this will turn into a good thing.
Repair is a summer project. Be careful with signs that you put up. And lest your tongue give you away, being super discreet when talking with anyone who is not part of your household is another thing to mind. Tommy, I disagree on one point. But the one in the alcove, in front of my entrance, is big, dome shaped, old school and glows in the dark. Once when I was working 2nd shift and home while my wife was at work a solicitor from well-known group knocked on the door and it was a young lady in short, short, shorts so tight she would have to have a razor blade to remove them.
I wondered what her real business was. We have dogs. Big outside dogs, and little but noisy inside dogs. Works great. I also regularly carry a. Way out in the sticks here a couple houses up from the end of a winding hilly dead end road. By now I know everyone who has legitimate business down here. Really only see strangers during hunting season. Belligerent substance-abusing neighbors are the main problem. Locking the driveway gate takes care of most of it. Putting up the Video Surveillance Cameras In Use sign seems to have stopped their incursions altogether.
Daytime knockers can be dangerous. I had a guy come to the door using a cane. I was bigger than him, and not a woman, so he left. Even when I make service calls and I am expected by the client and I arrive at the predetermined time… I always make sure to ring the door bell and then move back at least 12 feet from the front door so the client is able to see me through the window. I also let them know im on the way by making a phone call first before I leave. Just common sense. They appreciate the heads up for their own personal security too. No I am not a male jigalow ;P. White Cracker.
You are doing the right thing. When I worked for the Census, I always rang once and then backed up so whoever was inside could see who I was. I wore my badge around my neck. I can only think of a couple of times when someone inside refused to open the door. Once it was a child under orders from parents not to open the door to anyone; the other time it was an elderly lady who only spoke Arapahoe.
I left a note on the door and later one of her relatives contacted me. They called me from multiple numbers repeatedly. Finally 2 of them, both little snarky looking dudes, showed up at my door. I answered the door wearing my Ruger GP PS, thanks Antique Collector! That experience did make me smile. My wife just shook her head though!
Unknown Knockers are rare where we live now. This made the something, questionable looking Unknown Knocker act even more nervous!
Then he spied the. Unbeknownst to him, my wife was inside prepared to engage if things started going sideways. Whether you are a great big SOG vet, or a 95 pound grandma- be aware that there are people who will prey upon the good nature of good folks in order to commit crimes against them! My car broke down, fake medical emergencies, fake religious proselytizers, etc. Yes, there are service people who pass on information to their friends about what they see in the various homes they enter.
Using peepholes, adjacent windows, and security cameras if available, are simply the prudent thing to do. If you do decide the situation warrants opening the door then have a means of defending yourself handy. Not in another room, but on your person! DO NOT invite strangers into your home!!! If they are genuine and in need of assistance, deal with it outside.
Use your mobile phone or cordless phone to summon their help.
If possible, quickly text someone to let them know that you are dealing with a stranger at the door before you engage with the stranger in person. I am not advising that you be a cold and callous person unwilling to help your fellow person; just that you take the necessary precautions to protect yourself and your loved ones when confronted with the unknown variable of a stranger on your doorstep. Not sure if anyone mentioned it yet, but if you have kids or teens or elderly or anyone else living with you please have this topic of conversation with them.
Not letting someone see you in the window is a good idea… also I liked the idea of a big dog bowl or other props to allude to big dog on premises…. We have a jet black cat with huge round yellow eyes and to be honest is the police cat of our family! She just walked across my keyboard and now sits statuesquely near me on duty…. Years ago we had a person come to our house and asked to use the phone. They said it was an emergency. We took the phone outside for them to use where they used the phone and had someone pick them up.
All the while we were keeping an eye on them.
The whole thing was a little fishy since our town is so small but they never saw inside the house and never saw them again. The way my front door is situated I have a 2X4 cut that fits against a wall and allows the front door to open 6 inches. It would take some effort to open the door. Pluss I am always armed when I open my door. Anchorage has turned to a cess pool. We have a cordless and will dial the number for them and relay through the door. Same with L. If they need to talk to you, step outside, close and lock the door behind you. Or keep your gate shut and locked.
Lynn, Why do you advise this? I always invite them inside. They seem to be housebroken and generally well behaved. As others have noted, how you answer a knock on your door varies according to where you live. In my circumstances, a knock on the door is rare, as in almost never, but it does happen.
We rarely lock our doors when we are home exception when wife or daughter are alone. If a salesman shows up, that in of itself is a sign of desperation on his part just kidding, it never happens. Same with door to door religious sects.
The last one predicates some of my prep practices. I am always armed. Not with a huge, tricked out chunk of state of the art iron, but with an easily accessible sub compact, capable, concealed handgun. I practice this religiously for one reason. My years in law enforcement drilled home, time after time, most deadly encounters come with little or no warning. As I was writing this post, believe it or not, I got a knock on my door. Answered the door as Fed Ex driver was going back to his truck after leaving a package on the porch.
As I was saying, when you are at home, in most localities, there is no reason or excuse? We keep a claw hammer by each door. Benign visitors would think nothing of it. Someone with nefarious intent might think better of their choice of target. Not answering a knock on the door is a tough decision. If the intent of the knocker is to do a quick, kick the door in, smash and grab burglary, you better be prepared for a quick response on your part. Burglars, especially those that have continued their education in jail, will scout a target.
They will knock on several doors a day. If no answer, will back off and observe, noting time before someone comes home, establishing your behavior patterns. Lastly, I must touch on home invasions. Scary, but becoming more prevalent.
Most are not random. The victim is usually targeted as high value commensurate with the risk involved for the perpetrator. Random home invasions rarely, rarely, happen. I let you in to stay. I thought, 'He is probably very stressed and I am not doing much tonight, so we can just make it fun and he can relax and not worry.
I thought we can have a fun night. We chatted about his job in the fish markets, his life away from Spain and his girlfriend, who was studying abroad in Germany. I asked him if he felt he should consult his housemate about me staying there. But maybe her boyfriend might care," he laughed. Xavi was intent on making the experience as positive as possible.
I figured that him being away from his girlfriend and his homeland was probably why he seemed to appreciate the company, as well as explaining his empathy for my being alone. I'm not from London. I'm from Spain. I can imagine how you must have felt," he said. I don't know — I like to be a friend with every brother. One big problem with Shoreditch was the lack of homes with front doors. Soliciting a bed through an intercom is always going to be a no, unless you happen to chance upon a psychopath who wants to take your skin and use it to wallpaper their top floor flat.
Which isn't really ideal in the grand scheme of things. Knocking on any door I could, one lady told me through the letter slot that she'd call the police. Another kept saying that she really wanted to help, but that because she worked from home it would be difficult. I nodded unconsciously, before suggesting that this was actually a pretty ideal situation — she was in, and I was looking for somewhere to be in. And then I stopped mid-sentence. This wasn't a debate. She was a lady living by herself who understandably didn't want some creepy weirdo sleeping over.
My approach changed after that. After failing the entire way along Shepherdess Walk — which I'd got very excited about because all the houses had doors — it began to rain. Luckily, the next door I knocked on was answered by Victoria, a teacher and single mother of three teenagers, who invited me in for a decaffeinated vanilla-infused tea. I didn't feel great about imposing myself on them, but, you know, I still did.
I sat at their kitchen table for about 15 minutes, making polite conversation and trying to look normal. Not so normal that I appeared too relaxed about having nowhere to sleep, but normal enough that I didn't look like I was going to lose it and start kicking their windows in. I could hear the buzzing and beeps of the girls' mobiles, and a look of alarm washed over their mother's face. I asked you in and got the girls to ring around their friends to ask for a place for you to stay. I also called two friends, but they didn't pick up. My girls started texting me, pleading with me to just let you stay on the floor.
I was thinking you could have maybe slept in my car, or that I could drive you to my cousin's and say you were a friend from work. I didn't feel comfortable lying to her, but it was an option I considered. I suggested sleeping between the radiator and the back door. Victoria accepted. I thanked her. That family reaffirmed my faith in humanity.